You've really nailed it with this one. I'm sure so many can relate... I am one of them. In my first marriage it was all about HIS career, his personnae, his everything. And yet... it was oddly fulfilling for me... until it wasn't. We lost our oldest child suddenly and I realized I'm not sure I ever had a support system. Our marriage slowly tumbled to the ground with him leaving. As hard as I tried, I couldn't save it because the foundation just wasn't there when tested with such tragedy. I loved him, and it wasn't enough. But, not just because of him. Like you indicated, the role I created was no longer enough for me to be happy either. Thank you for such an honest look at something I'm sure women every where can relate to.